Hyper-independence can result from trauma, as individuals who have experienced trauma may develop an excessive need to be independent and operate without relying on others. Hyper-independence can be a coping mechanism to protect yourself from further harm, as well as a way to maintain control and autonomy in your life. It can manifest in various ways, such as avoiding close relationships, appearing overly self-sufficient, and pushing away help even when you need it. Asking for help, allowing yourself to lean on others, and seeking support or assistance are signs of strength, not weakness.
What is hyper-independence?
Hyper-independence is a term used to describe a very independent person. This level of fierce independence can extend to the point of taking unnecessary risks to achieve their goals without relying on outside help or assistance. Hyper-independence is often seen as a positive trait because it can lead to success and self-reliance, but it can also have some negative consequences if taken to the extreme. For example, a person who is overly independent may be unwilling to ask for help even when they need it, or may become isolated from their peers. It is important to remember that balance is key when it comes to independence – too much or too little can be detrimental to your well-being.
Signs of trauma-induced hyper independence:
Trauma-induced hyper independence can look like avoidance of physical or emotional intimacy, a heightened sense of self-reliance, difficulty trusting others, difficulty maintaining relationships, a need for high levels of control, difficulty expressing emotions, difficulty recognizing and meeting your own needs, an inability to be vulnerable, and a feeling that you must be independent and self-sufficient.
When you experience trauma, the brain and body’s natural reaction is to enter “survival mode.” This is their attempt to keep you safe, and protect you from experiencing similar traumatic events in the future. Your brain’s primary goal is to keep you safe and alive, so it is common to remain in mental and physical survival mode long after the traumatic event has passed, even when it is no longer necessary.
If you or someone you know is displaying these behaviors, it could be helpful to seek professional help. A therapist can help you process the underlying trauma, find healthy ways to cope, and manage symptoms of hyper-independence.
Release hyper-independence as you overcome trauma!
Overcoming trauma is a challenging process that requires a lot of hard work and dedication. One way to release hyper-independence as you work through trauma is to practice self-care. This can include stress-relieving activities like yoga, reading, journaling, and engaging in relaxation techniques. As you become more in tune with your self-care routine, try building supportive relationships with people who make you feel safe when asking for support. Make an effort to focus on healthy coping strategies, such as journaling, art therapy, mindfulness, or even joining a support group. In addition to therapy, making these changes can help you find balance and release hyper-independence as you overcome your trauma.
How does therapy help with hyper-independence?
Therapy can help with hyper-independence by providing a safe and supportive environment to relax without guilt or judgement, and explore the underlying causes of the issue. It is an opportunity to learn to acknowledge and express your needs, and recognize when you are relying too heavily on your independence. With the help of a therapist, you can also learn to identify and accept help from others, build healthy relationships, and learn to work as part of a team. Therapy can teach you to set realistic expectations and goals for yourself, helping you navigate life more effectively.
It’s okay to ask for help when you need it! Reaching out for support is a sign of strength and resilience, not weakness. Remember, you don’t have to do everything on your own – having a support system is essential for mental and emotional wellness.
